Showing posts with label Goals. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Goals. Show all posts

Friday, April 24, 2026

Getting the Life You Want

Happiness Activities

1.  Expressing Gratitude
2.  Cultivating Optimism
3.  Avoiding Over-Thinking and Social Comparisons
4.  Practicing Acts of Kindness
5.  Nurturing Social Relationships
6.  Developing Strategies for Coping
7.  Learning to Forgive
8.  Increasing Flow Expectations
9.  Savoring Life's Joys
10.  Committing to Your Goals
11.  Practicing Spirituality
12.  Taking Care of Your Body (Psychological Methods)
13.  Taking Care of Your Body (Physical Activity)
14.  Taking Care of Your Body (Acting Like a Happy Person)
15.  The Hows Behind Sustainable Happiness: Positive Emotions,
       Optimal Timing and Variety, Social Support, Motivation, Effort,
       Commitment, and Habit.  


The How of Happiness: A Scientific Approach to Getting the Life You Want  By Sonja Lyubomirsky.  New York, Penguin Books, 2008.  Index, extensive notes, appendix, 366 pages.  ISBN: 978-1594201486.  Ms. Lyubomirsky, Ph.D., is a Professor of Psychology at the University of California at Riverside, and a leader in the field of positive psychology.  

Professor Lyubomirsky analyzes what determines happiness.  Her research indicates that "happiness" is determined approximately 50% by our internal biological "Set Point", 10% by our circumstances in life, and 40% by our intentional activity.  Her explanations and suggestions are clear, reasonable, and grounded in psychological research.  Gaining effective use of our intentional activities is the focus of this book.  "This much happiness - up to 40% - is within your power to change."  

How to Live a Good Life: Advice from Wise Persons

Virtues and a Good Life

An Old Philosopher's Notebooks

Pleasure

Reading

Epicureanism







Thursday, April 09, 2026

Tai Chi Chuan Solo Practice Thoughts

Repost from 2014:

There are many different ways that Tai Chi Chuan is taught, many different versions of different styles are taught, different teaching styles are used, there are some different types of learning skills of the students, and different objectives of the students.  

My own view is that when learning a Taijiquan form your objective should be to learn the form so that you can perform the form alone, at home, every day.  You should practice the entire form or its parts alone and often.  

How to accomplish this objective:

1.  If you are a beginner, then be sure to use verbal cues.  Memorize the names of each movement sequence.  Before you begin a movement sequence (section, part of a form, named movement) say to yourself (silently or out loud) the name of the sequence.  Bring the movement name into your mind, use it as a cue to what will happen next, a trigger for attention and remembering.  This is martialing the power of mind intent, Yi, focus, attention to action, memorization, habit formation, learning cues.  There are many brief and colorful names that can be used for each movement, e.g., Grasping the Sparrows Tail, Cloud Hands, Needle at Sea Bottom, etc.  Keep a notebook with such lists handy to refer to as needed until the Taijiquan names and movements are memorized.  

Most often, in a class setting, Taijiquan teachers do not use verbal cues and the group practices in silence.  You learn by just imitating the acts, watching, and repeating the moves of others.  

I once attended one workshop by a young Yang Jun in Portland, where verbal cues were given in Chinese; but, not useful for me, an English only speaker.  One teacher objected to my printing a list of the movements and sharing with others.  Since you will be learning on your own, with an instructional DVD, these classroom circumstances are irrelevant.  

After you know how to do the form on your own, you probably will no longer use verbal cues (out loud or silently).  

My many Taijiquan webpages will give you the information about the resources you will need to get started learning the common Forms, and more tips about learning.  

2.  Reflect on the disadvantages of most Taijiquan class learning: travel time and expenses, class fees, group conformity, inefficient teaching methods, smelly classrooms, authoritarian or pompous or silent teachers, weird variations in a form, boring and lengthy warm ups, petty disputes amongst students, not enough lessons in a week, traffic and parking difficulties, scheduling conflicts, no Taoist/Buddhist/Confucian philosophy, etc.  

You can avoid all this by practicing your Taijiquan at home every day, by using current instructional DVDs and reading books by real Taijiquan Master Teachers, by saving your money and time, by finding and using your best learning skills, and by being independent.  If you are really concerned about the environment and conservation, then why drive and use gasoline to practice Taijiquan.  You don't need much space to practice Taijiquan in your home or back yard, and it is completely convenient for practice every day.  Just Do It today at home!  

3.  Practice, practice, repeat, do it over, play, repeat, practice ... learn, memorize, internalize, leading with Mind, becoming in your body, and forming beneficial health habits.  Learn two or three named movement sequences at a time using a good instructional DVD, practice them till you remember how to perform them reasonably well, then add them to your performance of the form.  Little by little you will inch forward towards a yard then more.  Two Practice Rules: do it today at home; and, do it tomorrow at home.  Frequency of performance repetition, alone, at home, and daily, enables you to truly learn.  Group class dynamics more often foster paying followers for far longer than necessary to learn a form, because you don't work daily in nearly all Tai Chi classes.    

4.  Don't attend classes were people are doing the form differently from what you have already learned to perform on your own.  This creates confusion, dissonance, over learning, and an awkward and stumbling flow.  Different angles will cause you much frustration.  Although I respect and appreciate such variety by different teachers, I don't need to trouble myself with doing all these minor or major variations of a form in a group class.  Once you have learned to do your version of the form, and it will always be your best version based on your abilities and age, then do the form at home, alone, and enjoy yourself in playing.  

5.  Resist the urge to practice too many Taijiquan forms.  I have explored many Taijiquan styles and forms from a academic or scholarly perspective.  However, in 2024, I regularly practice at home alone only three Taijiquan forms: Yang Short 24, Yang Long 108, and the Chen Short 18. I also practice cane drills and forms.    

6.  Distinguish between warming up and doing Taijiquan.  I don’t favor “Tai Chi” classes that spend 20-30% or more of the allotted and paid for class time on warm ups, loosening, stretching, limbering up, and doing Qigong (Chi Kung) movement sets.  Yes, do warm ups before and outside of the Tai Chi Chuan class.  Do Taijiquan in the Taijiquan class!    Yes, I always do some gentle warmup and limbering exercises to ready myself for playing Taijiquan at home; but, this is a peripheral concern.   Anyway, is not a gentle slow Yang 24 Taijiquan Form a sufficient gentle warm up exercise in itself? 

7.  Vary the pace, use more energetic and athletic versions of  a Taijiquan movement sequence, use a bit more speed and power expressions when practicing at home alone.  In a group class, I have always seen teachers only doing Taijiquan slowly, deliberately, quietly, softly, gently.  When practicing at home alone, you don't need to just be a softy dancer and passive follower, you can express yourself more freely, change the pace, play Taiji to your favorite music, experiment, truly live and play with Taijiquan.  

8.  Local Taijiquan classes require a fee of up to $100 a month ($1,200 a year), not including travel time and expenses.  You can purchase excellent instructional DVDs and books on the Taijiquan form you are practicing and learning for well under a $300 one time purchase.  Practicing and learning at home alone is more cost effective and efficient.  I like instructional DVDs in English by Masters Teachers like Jesse Tsao, Paul Lam, Jiang Jian-ye, Yang Jwing-ming, Ken Gullette, and others.  Unlike in 1965 in America, there are now hundreds of excellent books in English about learning and understanding Tai Chi, and sometimes scores of books on just one style (Yang, Chen, Sun ...) of Taijiquan.  These published authors and master teachers frequently have a sports education background and know much more about how to teach beginners and intermediate students via virtual instruction using professional production crews and editing; and, most often teach far better than your local Taijiquan entrepreneurs can teach.  

9.  Some people truly enjoy group classes because they form friendships with fellow students, can't practice consistently home alone, are better followers, lack confidence in their own skills, and always need guidance from a teacher.  The problem is that a group Taijiquan class only meets for two to three hours a week.  If you don't practice Taijiquan at home alone every day, you will seldom truly learn to embody and express your unique version of the form.  Working alone you learn to lead, to memorize, to free your body-mind from just following others at their pace and mode of expression.  If you don't practice alone every day, you will likely never learn the form and will eventually drop out of the class.  If socializing is your interest, then find a class group that appeals to you.  

10.  If your interested in "fighting," push hands, sparring, competition, Da Lu ... obviously you need partners, classmates, buddies, trainers and trainees.  I think that fighting and martial arts are something for people under 45 years of age - young sportsmen.  Taijiquan is very likely useless in a real fight where size, speed, power, youth, martial skill and technique, strength, fighting spirit, serious conditioning, and toughness are the elements of success and avoidance of real injury.  I respect the under-pinning's of the internal martial arts that are part of understanding Taijiquan, but after 45, these aspects are far less important.  

I do think, however, that imagining an opponent and having a concept of the offensive/defensive applications of a movement sequence, helps our performance in solo Taijiquan practices. Taijiquan, instead, is more a fight against stress, loss of balance, high blood pressure, some diseases, laziness, inactivity, sitting too much, falling, cultural ignorance, philosophical naivete, over-achieving, aggressiveness, fantasies, unrealistic expectations, etc.  Therefore, if you have no illusions about becoming a martial artist, and you are over 45, and practicing serious Taijiquan alone at home, there is no need for any martial arts training partners.  

11.  Have confidence that you can learn to perform your Taijiquan alone.  Yes you can, and don't think you can't.  Stay positive, upbeat, determined, focused, and work, work, work.   Carefully and conscientiously follow your instructional DVD teacher and You Will Learn.  Be gentle on yourself, don't criticize yourself.

12.  If your primary interest is in joining with a group that does Tai Chi in a carefully synchronized, expertly choreographed, beautiful, coordinated manner in beautiful Taiji uniforms; then you must regularly practice with such a performing group.  If you want to line dance in a group, then you must practice with a group.  Being in a choir, band, drill team, sports team, or orchestra, etc., are demanding commitments.  I enjoy watching a dedicated group do coordinated Tai Chi Chuan forms together.  However, I don't have the time, interest, or funds to join them in the regular practicing and training together that is required.  I wish them well and will watch their performances with delight.  

13.  I have an attitude of being satisfied with how I am doing, imitating, following my good  instructional DVD teacher.  I come close enough to the model, and feel confident in my performance.  I am far from "perfect" but I don't let that get in the way of keeping my Taijiquan practice going, improving, bettering, evolving.  Yes, I could benefit from corrections by a Master, but I can't afford or access that level of guidance.  I just work, and don't fret about my intermediate skills or lack of some subtleties in the Form.  I am not performing for a critic, I am practicing Taijiquan alone for fun, good health, insights, pleasures, insight, movement ...  

I've followed this course of training since I was 50 years of age.  My body, now at age 78, is content doing my few Taijiquan forms at home, alone.  

I've tried five different Taijiquan group classes in Vancouver, WA, since 2017.  They all fell short of the significant benefits of solo Taijiquan training for the many reasons given above.  The teachers seemed well intentioned, my fellow students friendly and courteous, but the benefits to me were minimal.  

If I wanted to learn, for example, the Chen Lao Jia Yi Lu, 1840, Old Frame, First Form, 74 movements, I would use one of the best instructional DVDs and some books as my teachers, learn two or three movements each week, and practice on my own (80-200 hours) till I learned all the form.  I'd follow my advice on my webpages on the subject.  I would need supplementary stretching and conditioning exercises, and would need to modify some of the more rigorous Chen movements, so as to prepare me for this style of Taijiquan considering my age.  Am I up to the challenge at age 78?  Maybe - Yes!   And, and I could learn at low cost and in the convenience of my back yard or indoors.  Anyway, since there are no Chen Taijiquan teachers in Vancouver, I could never afford to do otherwise, e.g., live and study in the Chen Village in China or drive to classes in some other large city.  I do attend workshops occasionally.  





"No school of Chinese martial arts is as well known and popular as Taijiquan. It is suitable for both the young and the old, not only because Taijiquan possesses special features of stretching, flexing the joints, softly twining, exercising both the inside and the outside, dispelling diseases and prolonging life, but it is also the martial art that best reflects Chinese traditional philosophy. More and more people from other countries, especially those interested in Chinese culture, are beginning to practice Taijiquan. Taijiquan is becoming popular all over the world. Because of this, Taijiquan has no national boundary and is beyond the category of culture, and belongs to people everywhere."
- Fan Chun-Lei and A. Frank Shiery, Traditional Chen Style Taijiquan.

Monday, November 25, 2024

Ten Steps to Failure

 Ten Steps You Can Take to Guarantee Failure


"1. Make your goals vague.
2. Make your goals difficult to visualize.
3. Think and speak negatively about your goals.
4. Avoid planning incremental steps.
5. Don't Do - Talk.
6. Wait until you are motivated.
7. Don't set a date.
8. List why it's impossible.
9. Don't research your goal.
10. Think of anything except your goal."

Achieve It: Ten Steps You Can Take to Guarantee Failure

Saturday, July 15, 2023

Goals for the Summer and Autumn of 2023

I am determined to sit far less and move more often this summer and autumn.

More emphasis upon taijiquan, yoga, walking, gardening, home chores, giving things away, self-care, etc.

Less emphasis upon sitting and watching television, I've watched television less than 30 minutes each day since April 2023.

Less emphasis upon sitting and overloading on information from the Internet.  Keep it under 30 minutes each day.  Take a long break from posting to Facebook or this blog.

Resume my monthly four day camping trip to a Yurt at the Pacific seashore in Washington or Oregon.

As for reading: more emphasis on Stoicism and poetry.


Wednesday, February 20, 2019

Mark Your Place

"So lay claim to your greatness. Drive a stake into the ground to mark your place under the sun.  Stop being a prisoner of your past and become an architect of your future.  And remember, it's never to late to become the person you have always dreamed of becoming."
Robin Sharma, The Greatness Guide


Purpose and Willpower


"It is my sincere belief that one of the largest causes of addiction is disconnection from who we are, and the adandomnent of our essence and unique purpose."
Hip Sobriety






Sunday, December 04, 2016

Lifelong Vitality

Move Into Life by Anat Baniel
Nine Essentials for Lifelong Vitality

"1.  Moving with Attention, Wake Up to Life, Mindful Movements
2.  The Learning Switch, Bring in the New, Lifelong learning, Retraining
3.  Subtlety, Experience the Power of Gentleness
4.  Variation, Enjoy Abundant Possibilities
5.  Taking Your Time, Slowing Down, Not Rushing, Luxuriate in the Richness of Feeling 
6.  Enthusiasm, Turn the Small into the Great
7.  Flexible Goals, Make the Impossible Possible  
8.  Imagination and Dreams, Create Your Life
9.  Awareness, Cultivating Mindfulness, Thrive with True Knowledge"


Move into Life: The Nine Essentials for Lifelong Vitality  By Anat Baniel.  New York, Harmony Books, 2009.  Index, bibliography, 306 pages.  ISBN: 9780307395290.  VSCL.  

Lifestyle Advice from Wise Persons

The Good Life  

Sunday, March 06, 2016

Activities to Increase Your Happiness


Happiness Activities

1.  Expressing Gratitude
2.  Cultivating Optimism
3.  Avoiding Over-Thinking and Social Comparisons
4.  Practicing Acts of Kindness
5.  Nurturing Social Relationships
6.  Developing Strategies for Coping
7.  Learning to Forgive 
8.  Increasing Flow Expectations
9.  Savoring Life's Joys
10.  Committing to Your Goals
11.  Practicing Spirituality
12.  Taking Care of Your Body (Psychological Methods)
13.  Taking Care of Your Body (Physical Activity)
14.  Taking Care of Your Body (Acting Like a Happy Person)
15.  The Hows Behind Sustainable Happiness: Positive Emotions,
       Optimal Timing and Variety, Social Support, Motivation, Effort,
       Commitment, and Habit.  


The How of Happiness: A Scientific Approach to Getting the Life You Want  By Sonja Lyubomirsky.  New York, Penguin Books, 2008.  Index, extensive notes, appendix, 366 pages.  ISBN: 978-1594201486.  Ms. Lyubomirsky, Ph.D., is a Professor of Psychology at the University of California at Riverside, and a leader in the field of positive psychology.  

Professor Lyubomirsky analyzes what determines happiness.  Her research indicates that "happiness" is determined approximately 50% by our internal biological "Set Point", 10% by our circumstances in life, and 40% by our intentional activity.  Her explanations and suggestions are clear, reasonable, and grounded in psychological research.  Gaining effective use of our intentional activities is the focus of this book.  "This much happiness - up to 40% - is within your power to change."  

How to Live a Good Life: Advice from Wise Persons

Virtues and a Good Life

An Old Philosopher's Notebooks

Pleasure

Reading

Epicureanism








Monday, January 19, 2015

Getting On in Years and Getting on with Life

My birthday was in January.  My mother, June, gave birth to me at the White Memorial Hospital in Los Angeles.  I remember little of my very early years, and what memories I have are pleasant ones.

My earliest memory is playing with carpenter's tools as a toddler.  My dad built the house that we lived in during my childhood and teenage years. 

In 2015, I will be 69 years of age.

I plan and expect it to be a productive year in 2015 in terms of fitness activities, writing, reading, mind-body arts practices, work, gardening, home improvements, some travel in the Northwest, and fun activities with family and friends.

We are anxiously awaiting news from the Oregon Health and Science University Hospital in Portland, Oregon, that they have a kidney available for transplanting in my son.  He has been on dialysis for three years.  He began his struggles with kidney disease when he was 19 years of age.  Karen will stay in Portland to help during his recovery from the surgery.

As of now, Karen and I are in reasonably good health.  We cope and manage our chronic health problems.  Local and area (Redding and Chico) medical care is good. 

Our income from work, investments, and Social Security are sufficient for a very comfortable lifestyle in rural Red Bluff.  I still am employed for 24 hours a week for nine months of each year, and am thinking of retiring when I am 72 years of age. 

Most of the time, I have many more projects and activities than I can accomplish.  Therefore, some objectives are not accomplished or others only half-completed.  I am never bored and feel pretty good about my accomplishments. 

Aging

How to Live the Good Life




                                                             1946
                                             My mother and father and I



                                                             1947



                                                  Karen and I in 1968




                                                            1974




                                                             1981



                                                             1984


                                                          
                                                           1989
                                             Alicia, Me, Karen and Michael D.





                                                              2000



                                                             2015


Monday, May 06, 2013

Flexibility and Playfulness in Goal Directed Behaviors

"Flexible Goals:  Goal setting is important for getting what we want out of life.  However, how we go about achieving our goals can become a real impediment, creating resistance to change, shutting us down, and even resulting in failure.  Loss of vitality, being stuck, or aging can often be traced to way we approach our goals.  By learning to hold goals loosely, you give your brain opportunities for discovering new ways to fulfill you fondest dreams.  You will accaccomplish more, with less suffering, and open up to new possibilities.  Vitality and health are fostered by adopting a free, flexible, playful attitude towards goals, embracing mistakes, and making room for mireacles."
-   Anat Baniel, Move into Life: The Nine Essentials for Lifelong Vitality, p.20.



Nine Essentials for Lifelong Vitality
"1.  Moving with Attention, Wake Up to Life, Mindful Movements
2.  The Learning Switch, Bring in the New, Lifelong learning, Retraining
3.  Subtlety, Experience the Power of Gentleness
4.  Variation, Enjoy Abundant Possibilities
5.  Taking Your Time, Slowing Down, Not Rushing, Luxuriate in the Richness of Feeling 
6.  Enthusiasm, Turn the Small into the Great
7.  Flexible Goals, Make the Impossible Possible  
8.  Imagination and Dreams, Create Your Life
9.  Awareness, Cultivating Mindfulness, Thrive with True Knowledge"

-   Anat Baniel, Move into Life: The Nine Essentials for Lifelong Vitality

Move into Life: The Nine Essentials for Lifelong Vitality  By Anat Baniel.  New York, Harmony Books, 2009.  Index, bibliography, 306 pages.  ISBN: 9780307395290.  VSCL.  

Nine Essentials Summary


Valley Spirit Yoga, Red Bluff, California


Wednesday, September 12, 2012

Challenge Yourself

"Always strive to improve.  Never be content to rest on your laurels.  Making progress towards a challenging goal is what keeps you motivated.  Challenge lights the fire.  Progress keeps it burning bright.  The key is to continually challenge yourself in an intelligent and thoughful way."
-  Clarence Bass, Challenge Yourself - Leanness, Fitness & Health - At Any Age, p. 12  


Challenge Yourself - Leanness, Fitness & Health - At Any Age  By Clarence Bass.  Albuquerque, New Mexico, Clarence Bass' Ripped Enterprises, 1999.  224 pages.  ISBN: 9780960971473.  VSCL.  

"To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream; not only plan, but also believe."
-  Anatole France  


"Goals are not only absolutely necessary to motivate us.  They are essential to really keep us alive."
-  Robert H. Schuller 


Determination and Planning Quotations  



A Twelve-Point Program for Healthy Aging
"1.  Eat an anti-inflammatory diet.
2.  Use dietary supplements wisely to support the body's defenses and natural healing power.
3.  Use preventive medicine intelligently: know your risks of age-related disease, get appropriate diagnostic and screening
tests and immunizations, and treat problems (like elevated blood pressure and cholesterol) in their early stages.
4.  Get regular physical activity throughout life. 
5.  Get adequate rest and sleep.
6.  Learn and practice methods of stress protection. 
7.  Exercise your mind as well as your body. 
8.  Maintain social and intellectual connections as you go through life. 
9.  Be flexible in mind and body: learn to adapt to losses and let go of behaviors no longer appropriate for your age.
10.  Think about and try to discover for yourself the benefits of aging. 
11.  Do not deny the reality of aging or put energy into trying to stop it.  Use the experience of aging as a stimulus
for spiritual awakening and growth. 
12.  Keep an ongoing record of the lessons you learn, the wisdom you gain, and the values you hold.  At critical points in
your life, read this over, add to it, revise it, and share it with people you care about."
-  Andrew Weil, M.D.
   Healthy Aging: A Lifelong Guide to Your Physical and Spiritual Well-Being, 2005, p. 239.